As a new parent struggling to return the mats, I understand the transient feeling from the other side.
But perhaps the metaphor of an anchor is less suitable in nautical terms for yourself staying ashore and more appropriate for your former partners as a wood working reference.
Your connection having allowed others to build something more permanent from what was temporarily supported in crumbling, brittle, drywall. Every city built, and rebuilt by people like you. And that’s the real magic.
Thanks for this comment! I think it is true -- the ocean can be quite indifferent. Working with wood and creating the bones for what can be something that outlasts several lifetimes in the end with its legacy... now that's something magical.
I so deeply relate! It can be truly heartbreaking to witness the full lifecycle of someone’s jiu jitsu beginnings, middles, and ends. Watch them grow and develop and then just stop. Our responsibility is to find the ideal balance of investment and detachment that enables someone to flourish while they’re with us but still protects our hearts when they leave. Thanks for writing!
As a new parent struggling to return the mats, I understand the transient feeling from the other side.
But perhaps the metaphor of an anchor is less suitable in nautical terms for yourself staying ashore and more appropriate for your former partners as a wood working reference.
Your connection having allowed others to build something more permanent from what was temporarily supported in crumbling, brittle, drywall. Every city built, and rebuilt by people like you. And that’s the real magic.
The ocean after all, is indifferent.
Thanks for this comment! I think it is true -- the ocean can be quite indifferent. Working with wood and creating the bones for what can be something that outlasts several lifetimes in the end with its legacy... now that's something magical.
I so deeply relate! It can be truly heartbreaking to witness the full lifecycle of someone’s jiu jitsu beginnings, middles, and ends. Watch them grow and develop and then just stop. Our responsibility is to find the ideal balance of investment and detachment that enables someone to flourish while they’re with us but still protects our hearts when they leave. Thanks for writing!
Yes, that detachment for me means that I am able to let go when the time comes. Still very heartbreaking, as you say.